I believe life is an ongoing process of lessons presented from the universe; things that can help us to grow as human beings if we pay attention to them. When I started my blog with this simple little post
six years ago, I never guessed what a life-changing adventure I was beginning. Food blogging has been an intense learning process for me, and although I appreciate the things I’ve learned about technology, writing, photography, writing recipes, and how the internet works, it’s the life lessons reinforced through blogging that I’m reflecting on today. Here are some things I’ve learned (or re-learned) from six years of food blogging. (And after you read my list, I’d love to hear in the comments about what life lessons you’ve been working on over the past six years.)
Life Lesson #1:
Be Yourself, Because No One Else is Exactly Like You
In the creative process of blogging, it’s easy to question how you’re doing things and wonder whether or not you’re doing it “right.” If I let myself, I sometimes watch what other bloggers are doing and start to worry about whether my writing should be be a little more personal or my photos a bit more creatively styled or should I be posting more baked goods or desserts? I’ve been working on learning to trust that my personal style of cooking, photographing, writing, and blogging is completely perfect for me. Those who like my blog will keep reading it and those who don’t will find some other blog that fits their preferences a little better. Just as it should be.
Life Lesson #2:
Be Kind and Generous and Good Karma Will Follow
There are daily interactions with others in blogging that can be seen as opportunities to practice exercising kindness and generosity. I try to do my best at patiently answering questions from readers (even when the information is already on the blog) or replying with something helpful to new bloggers who write for advice (even on days when I don’t have time to answer long lists of questions.) Some types of blogging generosity are easier to implement. In every recipe post I enjoy linking to similar recipes from other blogs, which I consider to be a complete win-win-win because it benefits my readers as well as the blogs I’m linking to, and builds up good blogging karma as well. Being kind and generous is a lesson I’m constantly working on, but I have no doubt about how important it is.
Life Lesson #3:
Pay Attention to What Feels Right to You
Blogging is a medium that’s constantly changing, and there are honest differences in opinion and not many rules about how things should be done. I still remember the first time years ago when I eagerly accepted a free cookbook and wrote about it on my blog, and through the years I’ve accepted a few products and featured them, always disclosing that I got the item free. I never accepted that many free products, but I realized recently that I wanted to stop accepting products or cookbooks at all. If I talk about a cookbook where I found a recipe or feature a product for Kalyn’s Kitchen Picks
, I want my readers to know that I’m writing about those things only because I use the product or cookbook myself and love it. I enjoy sharing recommendations with my readers, but what feels right about that for me is being able to say that I bought something myself when I’m talking about it on the blog.
Life Lesson #4:
Forget About the Failures and Focus on What Works
I’m always baffled when food bloggers post a recipe and then say that they didn’t really like how it turned out. I guess that works if your blog is just a record for yourself, but I want people to cook my recipes and enjoy them, so my standards about what makes it to the blog are pretty high. From time to time I have a bad streak of “not blogworthy” recipes and it really starts to get me down (not to mention the wasted food which gets thrown away!) A lesson I’m always trying to learn is to not waste energy worrying about the failures, focus on what does work, and move on.
Life Lesson #5:
A (New) Picture is Worth a Thousand Words
When I started my blog in 2005 I hadn’t even entered the digital camera age. I still have a lot to learn about photography, and although the last few years my photos are better, I still have some pretty gruesome photos left from those early years. A few months ago I realized that if I’m ever going to have time to update those old posts, I was going to have to revisit recipes a lot more often than I’d been doing. At first I worried about what readers might think, but I quickly realized that every time I update an old post with great new photos it makes me feel so much better about my blog that I can’t worry about whether anyone cares that there isn’t a new recipe that day. (And thanks to people who have let me know that they missed some of those early posts and enjoy seeing them revisited!)
Life Lesson #6:
The Friends You Make are What Really Matters
I saved this one for last, but actually the biggest lesson I’ve learned through blogging is how every life experience is an opportunity to meet other people doing the same thing, and if you’re lucky some of those people can turn into dear friends and impact your life in ways you never could have imagined. I’m not going to try to name all my great blogging friends for fear I’ll forget someone, but the fellow bloggers who’ve supported me through a couple of rough spots over the years know who they are, and I hope they know how much I love and appreciate them. I’m also lucky enough to have a family where some of my best friends are my brothers and sisters, plus some wonderful real-life friends, and I’m grateful for their love and support every day of my life. I appreciate the thoughtful readers who send me nice e-mails and who feel like friends to me as well. When I think of all the ways blogging has had a positive impact on my life, it’s the people I’ve met that I’m most grateful for.
What are the Life Lessons You’re Working On?
So those are the life lessons I’ve been learning through six years of blogging, and if you’re made it this far in a post with no recipes and only a single photo, thanks for reading and for your support of my blog! I’m currently out of town for Easter without a computer, but I’ll read comments and publish them with the iPhone until I get back. I’d love to know in the comments if any of the lessons I’m working on resonate with you or if there are other persoal life lessons you’d like to share.
Other Birthday Celebrations from the Past:
Kalyn’s Kitchen Turns One
Kalyn’s Kitchen Turns Two
Kalyn’s Kitchen Turns Three
Kalyn’s Kitchen Turns Four
Kalyn’s Kitchen Turns Five
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115 Comments on “Kalyn’s Kitchen is Six Years Old and Six Life Lessons I’m Learning from Food Blogging”
brinkka2011 says: Just wanted to say your Blog is in my rss you got a way with words.. Cheers,
So glad it was useful to you and that you're enjoying the blog.
I don't know how I came across this page but I am so glad I did. I am new food blogger and I started the same reason that you did – to stop sending recipes via email to friends. I absolutely loved reading these lessons. Good enough to bookmark. Thank you for posting this. :)I will be skimming through your pages a lot more.
Ali, what a great lesson. I'm also grateful that I found the South Beach Diet, and I admit, I have felt some of those same feelings watching people who I felt could benefit from South Beach but who rejected it for some reason or the other. But you're right, everyone must find their own path.
I remember my brother lost over a hundred pounds about 7 years ago. He had gone through a nutritionist and forwarded me all her meal suggestions and exercise suggestions. I disregarded them. He's since put it back on, and is now struggling with his weight. 6 years later, I was blown away when I began the south beach diet and, not to say that the beginning was easy, but how natural it began to feel and how much the weight fell off. A few weekends I had pizza late at night with my friends, or had mashed potatoes at dinner, little slips like that, but the weight kept coming off. I loved how I could still lead a perfectly normal life and not be high maintenance at dinner parties and restaurants. I keep trying to tell my brother about the south beach diet, and he insists that his program works for him. Maybe he'll never use the south beach diet, maybe he'll work his own way. I'm glad that I found the south beach diet at the right place and time to change my life. I'm frustrated, but what I'm learning is that people can only come into things when they're ready, at their time.
Teresa, you are sweet to say that. Glad you're been enjoying the blog. And I like your advice about slowing down; I need to work on that one!
Congrats! I don't have a lot of time to read blogs, but I make the time to read yours! It's the best! I've shared it with friends on Facebook on many occasions when I've cooked one of your awesome recipes. They're too good not to share. Here's to many more years of blogging for you and good eating for the rest of us! The life lesson I'm finally learning at age 47 is to slow down and enjoy every phase of life. My kids are leaving the nest and it took me completely by surprise! I'm recovering. 🙂
Thanks Chris. I do remember finding your blog too, way back when! And I'm very excited to come to Atlanta!
Happy Blogiversary Kalyn!
Thank you for all you have done for me and everyone who visits. You were one of the first blogs I began reading way back when and feel blessed that I have been able to meet you, have lunch/dinner with you, etc.
Looking forward to seeing you in a couple of weeks! 🙂
Thanks Johanna. And the beauty of blogging is that there's no one way to do it!
congratulations on 6 years – and still going strong!
Love your list! I especially like your point about allowing your blog to changes as you change – it is the beauty of the internet that it is such a fast developing mediaum
re the point about focusing on what works – I actually post some failures – some because they amuse me and others because I am learning from them and I think others can learn too. I guess my blog is a personal record and I find that while I don't remake a lot of recipes, I do make some similar recipes over and over and it is interesting to trace their development on my blog
Kellypea and Michelle, thanks so much!
Congrats on your 6th ~ I've only been here for a short time but I've enjoyed (sometimes literally!) every post.
Thanks for all you do for your community here! 🙂
Warm congrats to you on your 6th Blogaversary, Kalyn :). Thanks for sharing your learning– love "being yourself" especially. That's not always an easy thing to pull off writing a blog, or anything for that matter. What have I learned? A bit of give and take. As much as I set out to blog about whatever I was sampling in my house at the time, paying attention to what others enjoy has been fun, too, and I think helped those friendships you mention. That's the best part 🙂
Thanks Wanda, and you certainly deserve to have two comments!